Monday, November 26, 2007

After seeing the broadway show Spring Awakening several times, I decided to join an online fan site for it. The fans in this group call themselves "The Guilty Ones" (a reference to a number in the show). After posting in the forum a few times, I began to talk to someone who had seen a few of the same shows as I had (for his sake, we'll call him John). As we talked I found that the hyperpersonal model was very appropriate - I felt like I knew John very well even though I knew so little about him.

After a few months of occasional conversation, I found out that we were going to be attending the same show. When we met up in the city, I found that I was a little bit dissapointed in the real life John. I felt like I had so much in common with him online, but in person, he wasn't all that I had built up in my head. I also learned a lot about his other interests which didn't at all align with mine. Although John was very nice and friendly, I couldn't help but prefer him in virtuality. This aligns with what the hyperpersonal model predicts about leaving virtuality. I fyou have a really positive image of someone built up in your head, it is easy for the actual person to dissapoint in reality. John and I continued to talk for a bit about our love for the show, but in the end, that is all we shared in common.

1 comment:

lindsaybass said...

Emily,

Your post caught my eye because a high school friend of mine plays Georg in Spring Awakening. I saw the show over the summer and I loved it.
I can relate to your dissapointment when switching modality from CMC to FtF. I had a similar experience when I developed an online relationship with my freshman year roommate. Meeting in reality did not live up to my expectations. Selective self-presentation causes people to form distorted perceptions of others online. Since you and John had the common ground of Spring Awakening, your conversations probably focused mainly on the show. Naturally you did not develop a comprehensive personality profile for John. Certain characteristics were salient, while others went unnoticed until you transitioned into face to face interaction. Although it is discouraging when someone does not meet the idealized image you have created in your mind, people should consider the limitations of online relationships and be cautious when switching modality.